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Benji:

Review by Benji for Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart
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I respectfully disagree with the previous reviewer who said that Argov’s first book was better. As a guy, I thought the exact opposite: “Why Men MARRY Bitches” gives women much more sorely-needed advice.

This book is not about marriage. It’s about why single women don’t enter relationships that progress, and would be a good read for single and married women.

From a male’s perspective, I was amazed at how well it gets into the minds of men and tells women what makes us want to be exclusive, what makes us lose interest in other women, what we respect… “marry” nails it from a man’s perspective. The first book Argov talks about things that are obvious and predictable, like whether or not to sleep with the guy on the first date. “Why Men MARRY Bitches” talks about how a guy will test a girl, how he may manipulate her to keep the relationship casual, how a guy might lead her to believe he’s interested in committing and then do the “holding pattern” with the “I’m really busy with work” excuses. The advice in the last chapter on what a women should say to a guy when it isn’t progressing is outstanding. It tells women why things don’t progress, and that’s where most women need help. They have no problem catching a guy, it’s keeping him around where it gets messed up and that’s why “Why Men Marry Bitches” is superior.

Also, I can confirm Argov would have no way of knowing the things she discloses in this book unless she actually sat down and interviewed us men. I found myself saying under my breath, “Who told her this?” on almost every page. I was blown away by the discussions of how men are made to feel they are “filling a position” when a women talks about “wanting to get married” (but doesn’t matter to whom). It is such valuable information for women to read.

I also think the chapter called “Wanted Joe Paycheck” in “Why Men Marry Bitches” is brilliant. Argov describes that a guy won’t mind paying for a dinner, but we won’t attach himself to a woman who has the “attitude of entitlement.” There are really good examples about women planning the excessive wedding arrangements, a woman who quits her job without consulting with her fiance, and so on….it’s something EVERY SINGLE woman needs to educate herself on if she wants to keep a guy around because we will not commit if we feel like an ATM machine.

There’s no question most women don’t even know how they are being perceived by men. So they are trying to get respect but don’t know how. I like and respect women, and think they should be treated with respect, which is what the author is teaching women to demand.

I gave “Why Men Marry Bitches” five stars. If I could, I would give this book six. It’s a very “real” book that is also entertaining and funny–and both men and women should absolutely pick it up.

SmartFemme:

Review by SmartFemme for Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart
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For me, as a woman who has been too nice and too easygoing, Why Men Marry Bitches feels truly groundbreaking. It’s compelling to read-I couldn’t put it down, had to read cover-to-cover. (Even the cat mewling for lunch couldn’t break my intensity!!) Why? This is Sherry’s best book so far because, for the first time, she includes real men’s testimonials to show the mistakes women make when they try to get a commitment from a man. And these mistakes apply whether you are 3 months or 1 year into the relationship. What was also fresh in this book was the way she describes the different stages of a relationship and what’s inside a man’s mind when he stalls, creates distance or gives excuses to keep the relationship casual. I loved learning about the little half-truths guys use to keep a woman going even when the relationship is going nowhere! This male advice is invaluable and why I treasure this book so much. Another valuable insight is how to decode men’s unspoken language and nonverbal behavior. We listen to the words, but the real meaning is lost unless we can literally read between the lines. If you are serious about closing the deal, i.e. marriage, you’ve really got to follow this book. I consider it my romantic bible!!!

Ex-Libris:

Review by Ex-Libris for Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart
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Why Men Marry Bitches is a funny, insightful, and practical guide. It dispels the self-defeating myths that women often live by, like “I have to cathc a husband to feel whole” which translates to men as a more desirable woman. It gives logical relationship principles, and gives hilarious, detailed scenarios on how to handle the beloved, (if sometimes trying), man in your life. Read and follow the advice in this book only if you are seriously interested in having a quality relationship.

Why Men Marry Bitches begins with the uproarious anecdote: “Imagine a world in which roles are reversed and men cooked for women, picked up socks and couldn’t wait to get married. Pretend you had a boyfriend who owned a hope chest with six lavender bow ties inside that he wanted his groomsmen to wear at the wedding. Picture him getting choked up every time you strolled past a Baby Gap. And that he greeted you at the door wearing silk boxers and cowboy boots, so he could do a pole dance for you.” Then imagine they ask needy questions like “Where’s my ring?” and “Why won’t you marry me?”

Why Men Marry Bitches makes it clear that women don’t need to work harder to please their man. The book not only encourages women to let go of long-standing myths about being perfect, being his sex toy, or being whoever he tells you to be–it exposes these myths for the self-defeating behaviors that women have to act like servants, and explains why men are secretly attracted to a strong woman who has more to bring to the table. The main theme of the book is incredibly empowering–live your own life fully and the proposals will keep on coming.

Forget when the other books tell you and listen to the advice in Why Men Marry Bitches. The book gives clear guidance based on hundreds of interviews Argov conducted with men to find out what is really going on. Chapters such as “Female Button Pushing: A Time-Honored Male Tradition” and “Breaking into the Boy’s Club: Stolen Secrets–All the Highly Classified Things Men Will Share Only in the Company of Other Men,” expose the secret strategies, codes, and signs men use to test women, to cover their own vulnerabilities, and to be sure they are loved for themselves–not what they can provide a woman. Think of it like visiting a foreign country, you’ll have a better time if you know the “language.” Argov provides the kind of “male-language” tutorial only a friend who has your best interest at heart can give.

Perhaps the most useful sections of Why Men Marry Bitches are the practical situations that Argov tackles. We’ve all been there. There’s the small stuff–the man we love, doesn’t call, breaks plans, or comes home late. There’s the bigger stuff–the man we love is hesitant to propose. Why Men Marry Bitches gives realistic, specific advice on how to handle these situations while maintaining your dignity, self-respect, and independence. And that’s how you make him fall more in love with you. Because dignity is the biggest turn-on of all.

Why Men Marry Bitches shows us, with great insight and humor, that when you are a “bitch” the situation is win/win. You focus on yourself, making a full, interesting life and how the man in your life loves you more for it–and wants you for his wife.

I’ve read them all, and this is the best.